I started using the phrase "summer of independence" a few weeks before school ended. I know that times of transition are a good time to try something new. And for me, saying "summer of independence" is just a shorter, more succinct replacement for "I told you a million times to either put everything in one hand or put something down to open the door...don't stand there screaming "Mom! Open the door!"". See? Isn't "summer of independence" so much nicer?
I've even taken it a step farther. When my son wanted me to tell his swim coach that he had a headache and needed to leave, I sent him to tell the coach himself. Of course there was a lot of resistance but, within a few minutes, I saw him talking to the coach. Everyone probably has a crazy story about helicopter parents (like attending job interviews with their adult children) and I hope some of the stuff I make my kids start doing this summer leads us all down a more independent path.
I need a little work on the independence thing myself. Even as I look at the picture of the girl putting the pie in the oven, I can't help but think "Let me do that!", "Don't burn yourself", etc.
The phrase has spread among my family and friends and I joked about having a "summer of independence" blog. But then, duh, I already have a blog. So, if you feel you might benefit from a little independence of your own, I created this small pledge that simply states:
Where age-appropriate and within reason,
I pledge to help my kids
develop their independence
through practical activities that are
directly related to life skills
I created a button (thanks to
lu lu at home for the perfect picture at the perfect time) that you can take to include in your blog or mail to friends. Either cut and paste to your desktop or
download it here (and link back to this post ).
I once sewed a performance dress for a friends daughter. The fabric was thin, stretchy stuff. Horrible to work with but got the dress done. Then realized that I had done the entire dress with the wrong side of the fabric on the out side. OyVey!